Everyone knows that the stereotypical student lifestyle involves lots of drinking, partying and a heck of a lot of late nights. Prayer and worship hardly seems get a look in. By all means go out and have fun, but try not to let it impact on your academic and faith life.
The stereotype might exist for a reason, but this certainly isn’t the only uni experience available to you! And, and if it’s not one that appeals, you definitely don’t have to subscribe to it.
There will be loads of people who would rather stay in, order pizza and watch a film. There will also be people who would go bowling, or play roller derby (or pretty much anything you can think of!). Getting involved in sports and societies is a really great way to meet like-minded people, and you’re bound to find people who enjoy similar social activities. Don’t worry if you don’t find them straight away; it may take some time but you’ll find the people you fit with eventually.
In the meantime it’s good to know who you are and what your limits are. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing things that you aren’t comfortable with. Usually, if you are firm but polite in explaining why you don’t want to do something people will respect that. And if they don’t, do you really want to spend time with them? Try suggesting alternatives to certain social events, like going to the pub instead of clubbing, or suggesting a night in together watching TV and eating takeaway. Make an effort to get to know your flatmates but don’t feel bad if you don’t like the same things as them, and don’t compromise in order to fit in. Do what is best for you!
Our Students Said…
‘Set limits outside your comfort zone, but set limits all the same. If the people you are with give you too much grief about it, leave. You’ll find other people.’ – Duncan
‘Rather than getting in the way, staying true to my faith has made the whole experience of uni much more enjoyable. My faith has kept me grounded and helped keep things in perspective.’ – Emma
‘It sounds obvious, but university will be an amazing period in your life. It’s also brief, so make sure you enjoy it. Being a Christian doesn’t mean staying put in the safe environment of church or Christian societies – it means embracing others, and new experiences.’ – Liam
‘My journey of faith has been a long one, and will be a lifetime adventure, but my time as a student has made me the person that I am today. If I can give one piece of advice it would be this: always be true to who you are because you are the way God made you, and you will find so many friends who will love you exactly as you are.’ – Abi
‘Authentic is beautiful. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and respect you. Don’t waste time trying to fit in – you’re an individual.’ – Ellis
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